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There is nothing wrong with you! This is a very common thing that a lot of women deal with because not one person is built to be symmetrical. IT'S IMPOSSIBLE. Some women can notice the difference in their breast size more than others but it is all due to the glands in the breast. It is also very common for girls to deal with asymmetrical breast throughout puberty. Many reasons my cause breasts to develop differently; It could be from an external factor while developing in the womb, damaged breast buds, influx of estrogen from birth control, more estrogen sensitive cells around one and not the other or you may have become this way after breast feeding. You're perfect.

My friend's called me lop-sided and made fun of me for having differently sized breasts. What do I tell people when they notice?

First off, if your friends are making fun of your body then perhaps you should get new friends. OR You can claim that part of your identity as something positive by changing the words that are used to discuss differently sized breasts. They are dynamic, unique, natural, distinguishing and the best of both worlds! If you change the language you use, you will change the ways that you and other perceive yourself! You are beautiful, bold, and powerful!  

I noticed that my significant other is ignoring my breasts or otherwise makes me feel self conscious about my asymmetry.

Many people feel self conscious about the appearance of their breasts since we have been socialized to believe that breasts are the defining characteristic of a female identity. If it seems that your partner is treating you differently because of your dynamic difference; do a perception check!

STEP 1 : DESCRIBE OBSERVABLE BEHAVIOR

"Ever since you found out my breasts are difference sizes you haven't caressed then while we make love." 

STEP 2 : OFFER TWO INTERPRETATIONS

"Do they make you uncomfortable or have you just never seen someone who has the best of both words before?" 

STEP 3 : ASK FOR CLARIFICATION

"What's going on?"

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After you have a better understanding of what is happening, you can open a dialog with your partner about your feelings and your needs in the relationship.

I hate my body. Surgery is not an option. Please help me.

Hate is a strong word, there are too many media outlets targeting people encouraging the false need for symmetry. Look at your breasts and tell your self that you are beautiful, touch them, get to know them and most importantly understand that they are just boobs. You are not defined by the display of your breasts; you define your breasts. If you are interested in surgery we suggest you practice self love and purchase an ABI bra before spending too much money on a potentially dangerous cosmetic surgery.

My partner has differently sized breasts; how do I react to that?

Be a metaphysical bra and support your partner! Be sure to turn towards bids (especially if you know they are self conscious)! Consider yourself lucky that you are able to see them in the first place. If your partner seems like they are hiding them, use supportive language to describe your feelings and ask questions that might show you are empathetic to show that you appreciate all of that person.